Dr. David Paster, M.D.
Dr. Paster is Board Certified both in Adult Psychiatry and Child and Adolescent Psychiatry. He attended medical school at the University of Tennesse in Memphis, Tenn. He continued his training at the Los Angeles County-USC Medical Center in Los Angeles, Calif., where he completed a general medical internship. This was followed by flight surgeon training in the Air Force and two years as a flight surgeon in the USAF. He returned to the Los Angeles County-USC Medical Center to complete a residency in Adult Psychiatry and a fellowship in Child and Adolescent Psychiatry.
Since that time, Dr. Paster has been in private practice in the Los Angeles area, where he has served at different times as Vice-Chairman and then Chairman of the Dept. of Psychiatry at St. John's Hospital in Santa Monica, California, and later as the Director of the Adolescent Program at Westwood Hospital in West Los Angeles. He currently continues in private practice in Encino, Calif., and devotes voluntary teaching time to the UCLA Neuropsychiatric Institute, where he is an Assistant Clinical Professor.
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COMMITMENTS: All the Rage-
Remember when you tied your sister up? Told
your brother you'd hate him forever? The stress of being an adult can
reignite those childhood feelings of hurt and anger.
Los Angeles Times Los Angeles, Calif.
Author: BARBARA BRONSON GRAY
Date: May 23, 1994
Section: Life & Style; PART-E
are always telling their kids to get along with one another. But
increasingly, therapists say, the adults need someone to do the same
Call it sib strain-when
juvenile jealousies, childhood squabbles or long-forgotten insults-can
erupt into disagreements, verbal battles or even all-out hostility
between adult siblings.
realizing that the sibling relationship is important, especially in
this crazy society. I deal with it every day with my patients," said
Barbara Cadow, a USC clinical psychologist with a private practice in
Therapists say the seeds of
sibling stress are sown in childhood when parents model ineffective
communication styles or allow rivalries to go unchecked. Almost without
exception, those who suffer from sibling feuds have grown up in
families in which successive generations have failed to learn how to
talk to each other and listen, Cadow said. The result, sometimes long
after everyone is officially grown up, is angry siblings.
problem is usually triggered by stress-a wedding, a holiday, an
illness, a funeral or a will. "People are raw emotionally and then the
issues come out," said Cadow, who recently counseled two sisters
wrangling over a will.
is a lot like marriage counseling-except both patients have the same
parents, Cadow said. In the case of the two sisters, both had long felt
deprived of love, attention and reinforcement, and learned that they
were holding each other responsible.
worked out, in a very emotional session. They both realized that
neither of them had gotten what they felt they needed," Cadow said. And
they stopped fighting over the will.
73-year-old Northridge woman who asked to remain anonymous said she has
still not resolved completely the tension she feels with her three
siblings. "I grew up and was put in a little category; I had the label
of being bright, and my younger sister had the label of being pretty,
with personality, dimples and all that," she said.
years ago, at the wedding reception for her second marriage, one of her
brothers turned to her and said he had never noticed that she was so
beautiful. She bristled. "I told him, right then, that I didn't think
any of them had ever looked at me," she said. "He was shocked."
Westwood-based psychologist Arlen Ring said, one of the kids gets the
feeling the other sibling's role came easier. "One sibling may have
been the rebel and the other, a good little girl. Neither appreciates
the price the other had to pay for refuge," he said.
sees a growing number of people seeking sibling-related therapy.
Usually, some occasion becomes a flash point and a fight ensues. "For
some, it's like a bomb waiting to go off," he said. Money is a big
issue around which things break, as are celebrations.
many cases, Ring said, the siblings discover that they grew up in a
dysfunctional family in which the parents had so many unmet needs that
they were not able to provide a forum for the family to communicate.
Rather than feeling like everyone was working together and on the same
side, children in such situations may have grown up seeing each other
as players who would move against each other if given an opening.
all model the kind of behaviors we've primarily been exposed to," said
Barry Slone, a clinical psychologist with offices in Orange and Laguna
Hills. "If you assume the parental relationship is one of the more
powerful educational experiences, I don't think it's a stretch to draw
the conclusion that if you grew up in a family where people could
express their point of view, negotiate and constructively solve
problems, you're going to have a better relationship with your sibling."
Paster, an Encino psychologist, uses the acronym RAGE-rivalry, anger,
greed and envy-to explain the sibling stress he sees among the adults
he treats. He says the combination of those four emotions creates the
tension that is increasingly being experienced among grown siblings.
common, Paster said, for adult siblings to remember something said
decades ago. One client recently told his brother that he cannot forget
that, at 14, he told him that he would hate him for the rest of his
life. The issues, Paster said, are often not even remembered by the
other sibling or may be recalled very differently.
memory is selective. One woman clearly remembers her brother tying her
to a piano bench with a jump rope when she was 8. What she does not
recall is why he did it.
spring up deep into adulthood. Cheryl Heitman, a family therapist in
Agoura, said she often sees sibs who have gotten along well, even into
their 30s and 40s, until some problem opens an old, even unremembered,
"You're reacting from old
feelings, feelings from when you were 5, and then you revert to those
deep, familiar behavior patterns," she said.
said she also has counseled adults who found that issues with their
siblings were getting worse as they all aged, without any particular
event or crisis as a cause.
"A lot of
people, as they get older, instead of their issues getting resolved, it
gets worse. We all have expectations of how we ought to be treated and
we have these expectations even more for family. So it's very easy to
be left out, disappointed or frustrated. And most families don't make
it a habit to talk about the dynamics of their relationships," Heitman
Sometimes the precipitating
factor is a sibling's spouse. Cadow said one patient she has counseled
was extremely close to her brother but saw the relationship slide after
he got married. "The wife tried to keep the brother away from his
sister; she practiced phone sabotage," Cadow said.
Why? "It's hardly ever communicated in these situations so it's hard to know what it's about," she said.
up isn't easy. Cadow remembered one patient who had problems with all
his siblings but carefully selected the one with whom he was closest.
He planned out what he would say, how he would begin the conversation
and phoned. The brother hung up on him.
need to be prepared for an overture to fail," Cadow said. The best bet,
she advised, is for troubled sibs to try to talk in a neutral, public
place-such as a restaurant-where inhibitions may make the discussion
more calm and controlled.
suggests that sibs start by reminiscing-sharing silly stories in an
effort to regain common ground. Keep it low-key, go slowly, don't blame
and don't go in with huge expectations. "Be happy if you can meet and
not fight," she said.
say just having children of their own sometimes spurs siblings to seek
therapy. Watching the kids interact can resurrect long-buried,
conflicting feelings of both fun and frustration, and stimulate a
desire for the new generation of children to do better.
can parents nip sib strain in the bud? Paster said parents should be
careful not to assume that sibling rage is normal. "It's not," he said.
"Kids should be encouraged to talk about their feelings with each other
and to treat each other well."
said parents should feel comfortable stepping into the situation when
they see their children at each other's throats. The theory that the
grown-ups should let the kids work it out themselves usually does not
work, he said.An LA Times article featuring Dr. Paster on the subject of psychiatric help for children follows:"KIDS on the COUCH How Psychotherapists Are Helping Children Succeed at the Difficult Job of Growing Up"
Los Angeles Times - Los Angeles, Calif.
Author: Lee Dembart
Date: May 29, 1988
Start Page: 9
Section: Los Angeles Times Magazine; Times Magazine
Billy Redmond was 4 years old, his teachers at nursery school called
home. Billy was having trouble, they told his parents. He was becoming
an extreme behavior problem. He was wetting his pants. He wouldn't wait
his turn, couldn't work with scissors and crayons, and he was
increasingly frustrated at his failures. Billy was lashing out at other
kids, hitting them.
The message the Redmonds got was simple: Billy needed help.
American Psychological Assn. estimates that 15% of the nation's
children, defined as those under the age of 18, are in need of some
kind of therapy. And there is no minimum age for emotional problems.
These days, even toddlers are clients of a wide array of therapies and
theories and mental health professionals. "Parents seem to be more
aware that children have psychological and psychiatric needs and are
more open to seeking treatment than they were 10 years ago," says Kathy
Demming, who is in charge of clinical intake for child psychiatry at
UCLA's Neuropsychiatric Hospital and Institute. "Parents these days
want to make sure their kids have the best possible chance in life, and
if there's a problem, they want it solved at an early age."
course, 2-year-olds, 5-year-olds, even 8-year-olds don't tell their
parents they're having emotional problems. At least not directly. They
act them out. Their problems are disorders of conduct-socially
disapproved behavior, including lying, stealing and general
disobedience-and emotional disorders characterized mainly by such
symptoms as tearfulness, sadness, social withdrawal and relationship
problems. Even less severe developmental problems, the kinds that most
children contend with and grow out of-temper tantrums, biting,
bed-wetting, nightmares, thumb-sucking, sibling rivalry-that persist or
are extreme or occur out of the normal sequence of development, can
indicate deeper problems.
preschool-age children, the problems usually present themselves in the
(nursery) school environment," says David Paster, a West Los Angeles
psychiatrist and chairman of the department of psychiatry at St. John's
Hospital in Santa Monica. "Perhaps the child is disrupting the group,
not abiding by the rules of the school, may not be learning or have
basic developmental or speech problems. These kids tend to get referred
to therapists." In elementary-school-age children, Paster says problems
might originate with stealing and shoplifting.
working in all the mental health professions-psychiatry, psychology,
psychiatric social work-see children. The process starts with an
evaluation, and sometimes ends quickly; some problems are easily
diagnosed and solved with consultation or limited therapy. Paster says
he sees as many children just one, two or three times as he sees for
three years. And Helen Reid, a clinical social worker who is the
coordinator of the Cedars-Sinai Early Childhood Center, remembers one
diagnosis that combined a knowledge of child psychology and development
with a detective's sensibility.
8-month-old baby girl was brought to Cedars-Sinai. At home, as she
crawled around the floor, she was picking up pieces of lint from the
carpet and eating them. In taking a history from the mother, Reid found
that the baby had been weaned from the breast a few weeks before, and
that during nursing, the mother had worn a kimono covered with little
"The baby would just
finger those but suck the breast," Reid says. "When she was weaned, she
would find those little things to remind her of her nursing experience.
of all, we got the child on a bottle. The mother had tried to wean her
from the breast to a cup. We got her a pacifier to suck. It was the
sucking experience she was missing." And that was the end of lint
But often a child's problems
are not solved so simply. They can be biomedical-a neurological
disorder, for example-amd might require drug therapy. And sometimes, as
in the case of Billy Redmond, a child must undergo a long-term, complex
process that combines several elements of psychotherapy. BILLY
Redmond's mother remembers what it was like to confront the problems
her child was having. "I went through, `What am I doing wrong?' " Jane
Redmond says. "I thought, `Am I screwing this kid up? How on earth am I
ever going to get things back to normal?' "
Redmond and her husband, Steven, a Westside attorney, seemed to have an
ideal marriage. (The Redmonds' names have been changed, as have those
of all the patients and their families quoted in this story.) Steven
Redmond was a success in his work, a devoted husband and father, and
Jane Redmond had chosen to concentrate on rearing Billy and his older
brother and younger sister. The Redmonds had noticed no emotional or
behavior problems in their children until they discovered Billy's
difficulties at nursery school. They sought advice from their
pediatrician, who directed them to a child psychologist. The
psychologist tested him and, in light of his behavioral disorders,
treated the boy by trying to get him to bring his aggressive feelings
to the therapy sessions, rather than venting them at school or at home.
a year and a half, the results were minimal. "We continued to have a
lot of problems," Jane Redmond recalls. "We couldn't go to birthday
parties because the noise was too much, and he would just go crazy. It
became apparent to us that we had a child who was increasingly unhappy
and increasingly depressed, and nothing was working. He had no friends.
He couldn't function in a camp situation, and he couldn't function in a
lot of things that we thought he ought to be able to function in."
Jane Redmond asked her own therapist for another referral, and he
recommended David Paster. In the first session with Paster, Billy
entered the room, turned and tried to flee. But Paster sat down in
front of the door and blocked it. He didn't physically restrain the
boy; he just didn't let him leave. Paster spent most of the first
session warding off Billy's kicks and punches, repeating over and over,
"I realize you're angry, but your mother said you have to be here, so
you have to be here."
That was the
only time Billy tried to escape. Over the next several sessions, Paster
was able to put together an evaluation of Billy that combined talking
with his parents and teachers, observing him at school, standard
developmental testing and a medical history. Paster diagnosed Billy as
suffering from Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder-he couldn't
concentrate, had too much energy and acted impulsively. Because ADHD is
considered a physiological as well as a psychological problem, Paster
prescribed Ritalin, a stimulant that is widely used to control
hyperactivity. (Psychiatrists are the only mental health professionals
qualified to prescribe medicine.) He suggested Billy attend a school
with smaller classes and a tutoring approach, a school where Billy
would get lots of attention and control. In sessions with Paster, Billy
ignored the doctor's stock of toys; he preferred to sit in a chair and
talk like an adult. "It was similar to an adult who comes in and
intellectualizes all the time," Paster says. Billy spent a lot of time
talking, which Paster says is a symptom of anxiety and stress. Billy
told Paster: "I'm really mad at you." "That would sound good coming
from an adult," says the psychiatrist, "but coming from a 6-year-old,
it sounds like he's parroting somebody else." One day after less than a
year in treatment, Paster got out his indoor basketball equipment, and
he and Billy shot baskets. It wasn't exactly what the doctor had in
mind in terms of play therapy-a more specific kind of play that helps
expose a child's thought processes-but it was useful nonetheless. At
first, according to his mother, Billy "really didn't try to make a
basket, didn't dare to try to kick a ball, didn't want to take any
risks. In David's office he could take the risk-eventually-to try and
shoot the ball into the basket."
Billy began to engage in the kind of play the doctor considered
therapeutic. Although Paster declines to give much detail of Billy's
sessions on ethical grounds, Jane Redmond remembers that Billy spent
several sessions building an "incredible" structure of Lego blocks, and
she recalls a picture Billy drew that showed dramatic insight into his
feelings. Billy had drawn himself, his sister and a nebulizer, a small
breathing machine the Redmonds used at home to help his sister with her
asthmatic attacks. The machine is about 6 inches by 6 inches by 4
inches. But when Billy drew it, he made the machine nearly three times
as large as his sister. "He got himself in there somewhere, also very
small," his mother says. "By looking at that picture, you can see that
to this kid the nebulizer is a very fearful, frightening, huge,
humongous thing that's about to overtake his life. Once you get that
input, you can start talking about it and telling him what this
nebulizer does for us. That came from the drawing." The play therapy,
Paster says, gave the boy another outlet for the thoughts that were
bottled up inside. "His aggression resolved," Paster says, "and his
problems in the classroom resolved." Billy is now in the first grade in
a special-education school for bright children with learning
disabilities. The smaller classes and quieter environment, Jane Redmond
says, have reduced his anxiety level, which tended to soar when he was
around a group of children. He is one of the best students in his
class. THERE ARE A wide variety of approaches to child psychotherapy.
Paul S. Rappoport, a clinical psy chologist writing in Parents
magazine, summarized them this way: "Psychoanalytic treatment deals
with unconscious motivation and emotional insight; behavioral therapy
focuses on the elimination of a specific problem behavior;
client-centered therapy improves self-concept by encouraging
self-expression; relationship therapy increases self-esteem by
providing a supportive therapeutic environment, and many therapists use
a combination of all these methods." Amid these variations, there is
one constant: play therapy, the use of toys, puppets, dolls and doll
houses, trucks, dinosaurs, crayons and paint. Invented by Freud's
daughter, Anna, the founder of child psychotherapy, play therapy is the
tool used to pierce a child's inner world. Play therapy is to children
as free association is to adults.
inner life of a 5- or 6-year-old child is immensely rich," says Dr. Ben
Kohn, a Beverly Hills psychiatrist and psychoanalyst who sees many
children, some very young, in his practice.
ideal child is not the child who comes and sits in the chair or lies on
the couch and free associates," Kohn says. "The child uses the couch,
but not to lie down and say whatever comes into his mind. The child
puts toys on it and plays on it, throws the pillows and builds
fortresses, hides under the couch as much as on top of the couch.
is the most marvelous experience to watch these children and to listen
to them. Their imaginations are creative, seeing the world in
Technicolor. They're ingenious. They come up with ideas that are
fascinating-astounding, if you will.
play house, they play doctor, they play scientist, they dig, they
create, they struggle. You give a child a setting with someone who's
really interested, someone who wants to hear the games, who plays, and
they'll start to free up and present these inner feelings.
let the child be the director of the play. They'll either involve you
or they'll let you sort of watch them, and that already tells you a lot
about how they relate to people, whether they want to be by themselves
or more involved. I let them assign the role. And while we're playing
the game, I can say things in the context of the play that affect the
Marie Briehl is the doyenne of
child psychoanalysts. She studied with Anna Freud in Vienna in the
1920s and helped pioneer child psychoanalysis in New York in the 1930s
and in Los Angeles a decade later. She is now chairman emeritus of the
child analytic section of the Southern California Psychoanalytic
Institute. A small woman in her 80s, she is imposing nonetheless.
work of a child is play," she says matter-of-factly. "I would say (to a
child), `What do you like to play with?' My room has in it the things
that children like. Writing materials, games, dolls, marionettes-little
ones, big ones-and blocks. `Find out what you like.'
way a child selects or goes to those things will tell you a lot about
his whole problem. Some children are afraid to go, afraid to choose.
They don't feel free enough to do that because they've never been
allowed to do it.
"Sometimes they put
the human figures in such places that there is no father at all, or
maybe there isn't a mother, or the mother and the father are doing
things together and the children are neglected. Whatever the child does
is ultimately of some value in knowing how he feels about the
organization or lack of it in his own house. We then take that
information and pick up on those points that seem to be significant in
their relationship to the world around them; we can then better
understand and diagnose their problems. And whether it's fun, or
whether it's full of concern and anxiety, or whether he is rigid and
afraid to have fun, or whether he wants to break up the whole house."
therapist tries to open the child's eyes to other options in thought
and behavior than the ones the child naturally adopts. This is
accomplished in play therapy by suggesting other resolutions to the
child's stories. Eventually, therapists say, children understand that
the alternative endings are possibilities they might try themselves.
"The purpose of therapy is to give options," David Paster says.
CHEERFUL Helpers nursery school at the Cedars-Sinai Early Childhood
Center offers a variation on the one-on-one therapy Billy Redmond
received. In a comprehensive program that includes both individual
treatment and interaction with others, each child is continually
evaluated by a staff of teachers and therapists.
Reid, a clinical social worker and child development specialist who is
the center's coordinator, says most of the children were referred to
the center after their behavior could no longer be tolerated at other
nursery schools. Cheerful Helpers has a ratio of three teachers to six
students so that there is constant close supervision. The children,
ranging in age from 2 1/2 to 6, spend three hours at the school four or
five days a week while also undergoing one to three sessions of
individual therapy a week.
therapy in the nursery school is called milieu therapy," Reid says. "In
other words, their milieu is kept stable at all times, and they are
made, three hours a day, to behave in a socially acceptable way. It
takes them out of the family system."
says the children at the nursery school are not profoundly disturbed.
About a quarter of them have suffered such debilitating traumas as
hospitalization or birth defects, but the rest have relatively common
emotional problems. "They are children often who have a difficult time
with impulse control," she says. "But if you have an adult sitting on
each side of you who's trained, they help you calm down." Reid says she
sees one thread of similarity in most of the children who are referred:
Almost all are the first child in the family, and most have younger
siblings. "They were a prince or a princess at home, and then came this
competitor," Reid says. "Just think if a husband brings home another
woman and says, `Darling, I love you just as much as I always have, but
I also love this other person, and I want her to live here with us.'
That's what a kid feels like when a younger baby comes home. They get
very angry because they feel, `I wasn't good enough. Something's wrong
with me.' If it's not acted out with the sibling or if it's not
verbalized to the parents, that anger could get acted out with
playmates. And that could make a very aggressive child." Reid offers
the example of a child sent home from school for biting a classmate:
"Then after they come back (to school) and they promise never to do it
again, they have no impulse control and they bite again. Parents of the
bitten child get enraged and scared. So the biter gets kicked out of
nursery school." One of the major aims of the staff at the Cedars-Sinai
nursery school is to help the children learn to express their feelings
instead of channeling them into aggression. Explains Reid: "If the
therapist says, `Gosh, it was really hard on that little boy when the
mommy brought home the baby. What do you think he was feeling when that
mommy brought home that baby?'-you're trying to get him to put his
feelings into words. He can at least begin to verbalize instead of
throwing something or beating up on his brother." The nursery school's
approach "tends to be preventative," says Saul Brown, who is chief of
the department of psychiatry at Cedars-Sinai, director of the Early
Childhood Center and Reid's husband. "We don't leap into working with
the kids in a strict one-on-one situation, because most of them don't
need that sort of attention yet. The children here are rarely singled
out, but they are guided toward proper behavior."
a weekly staff meeting with the therapists and teachers, each child's
progress is reviewed and treatment is charted for the next six weeks.
Parents contribute to their children's treatment by visiting the school
once a week to watch them behind one-way mirrors. Then they attend a
group meeting, conducted by a teacher and therapist, to discuss their
observations. (All of the families in one classroom see the same
therapist.) Parents also meet individually with the therapist once a
week. If the parents need further treatment, they are referred to the
Cedars-Sinai adult outpatient clinic.
says parents shouldn't feel inept when they cannot control their
children's disruptive behavior. "It's hard to expect a parent to do
this because they're not trained, and they don't have the time or the
The average stay at the
nursery school is two years, Reid says. She estimates that two out of
five students graduating to kindergarten will need to continue in
special schools with smaller class size, fewer distractions and more
attention from teachers. HOW DO parents and therapists know if the
process is working? Edith Wallace has worried about just that question.
years ago, Wallace was the unhappily married mother of two boys, 3 and
5 years old. She and her husband had stayed together out of concern for
their children. The elder child, Peter, was very sensitive and bright,
asking such questions as "How does God make our skin stay together?"
and "Is there gravity in other universes?" As a toddler, Peter was
never a problem, unlike his brother who, Wallace says, did all the
"standard" things: acting out, being silly. At about the same time that
the Wallaces decided to end their marriage, Peter began kindergarten.
He also began to be very shy and withdrawn. While his younger brother
took social situations by storm, Peter barely participated. When he
did, his teacher told his parents, he interacted more with girls than
boys, which was unusual for his age group.
was so scary facing that my kid needed help," Edith Wallace says now.
"Parents, in their bones, look at their kids and know when they need
help. They just know it-whether or not they want to face it. I threw
temper tantrums for months. I was impossible, but I went ahead and
For the last 2 1/2
years, Peter has seen a psychiatrist one to four times a week. A few
months ago, his mother cut him back to twice a week, but Peter started
fighting in school, and the number of sessions was increased to three a
week. It worried her. She felt she had seen few results after a year
and a half; she began shopping around for a new therapist. But then
Peter seemed to improve.
"He came home
from school one day and said, `Jerry had a neat shirt on,' " she says.
"That was the first time since he started school that he told me
anything of what happened in school without me reaching down his throat
with a pair of pliers and pulling it out."
the other day, she said, Peter repeated a joke he had heard in class.
"That means he's in the social circle," she said. "He's hearing the
jokes that are going around. He's participating in school, and he's
even bringing some of that stuff home." Psychiatrist Ben Kohn says one
of the most common questions parents ask about therapy is "How long
will it take?" Though the time frame obviously varies with each case,
he says it usually takes from six months to a year to see results, but
even then, a child will need follow-up care at least once every few
months. "There are a variety of goals, the most important being to help
with what that person came in with: the pain, the discomforts," says
Kohn. "With children, the goal is best described as freeing up
development so a child can continue along in his development sequence,
so he can move along in his life. If the child is not depressed
anymore, he can at least learn and move on to the next phases in his
The course of Billy Redmond's
treatment is a case in point. According to Jane Redmond, the last year
of therapy with David Paster (and Ritalin) has "made a real difference.
He's doing very, very well." But the process isn't complete. Recently,
he hit one of his classmates, the first time in months that he had hit
anyone. "Billy still can't handle change," she says. "He can't handle
changes in the routine, he can't handle new people in the class, he
can't handle unstructured time."
she prefers to think of Billy's improvement: "He's like night and day,"
she says. Little things: Where Billy couldn't go to any birthday
parties before, now he can. They must be small ones, without too much
commotion, or, if they're large and active, one of his parents goes
along. He's much happier now, less anxious and less worried. Redmond
considers the way the process has worked: "Billy spent time with David
and began to learn to trust David, and he also began to feel good about
himself because he could make baskets. Then he began to think, `Gosh, I
could do that. I can do it here; maybe I could try it someplace else,'
and began to get enough self-confidence to try other things. He was out
today playing catch with a rag ball and a mitt. It takes a lot of time
and sensitivity, but he'll do just fine. We're very proud of his